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Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Commodity of Trust
Reading Covey's book THE SPEED OF TRUST, catchy title.
That someone like Covey could take the time and trouble to define the word "trust" -- only Covey would do that. And I love his definition:
It seems that people look for two characteristics, when they feel like trusting. (I love cubbyhole-holing)They look for
INTEGRITY (that one is easy to guess). And they look for, get this,
COMPETENCE, most amazing. But it makes perfect sense.
Let's say, you think about your father, or your ex-wife or ex-husband, or a boss you had, etc.
Fist you ask yourself if you trusted that person, and you know the answer immediately.
Then you ask yourself if they had integrity: my father had some integrity in some things, in my view. OK we'll go on to competence...yes competence in his career, even competence in his taste re some things...but totally incompetent in his relationship with my mother. Bottom line, there were many things about which I could not trust him and shied away from him.
Yikes, do I want to be like that? It is time for me to look at my own actions, my own behaviour and maybe clear some things up with my relationships, or especially relationships I've simply dropped: perhaps that is part of my incompetence...i can see that these were people I befriended, in integrity, but i slipped when I simply disappeared. Now they may be hurt, and what does that say about whether they can trust me?
I'm not sure if I'm making sense-here I am, just turned 70 - I could just be addle-pated.#
That someone like Covey could take the time and trouble to define the word "trust" -- only Covey would do that. And I love his definition:
It seems that people look for two characteristics, when they feel like trusting. (I love cubbyhole-holing)They look for
INTEGRITY (that one is easy to guess). And they look for, get this,
COMPETENCE, most amazing. But it makes perfect sense.
Let's say, you think about your father, or your ex-wife or ex-husband, or a boss you had, etc.
Fist you ask yourself if you trusted that person, and you know the answer immediately.
Then you ask yourself if they had integrity: my father had some integrity in some things, in my view. OK we'll go on to competence...yes competence in his career, even competence in his taste re some things...but totally incompetent in his relationship with my mother. Bottom line, there were many things about which I could not trust him and shied away from him.
Yikes, do I want to be like that? It is time for me to look at my own actions, my own behaviour and maybe clear some things up with my relationships, or especially relationships I've simply dropped: perhaps that is part of my incompetence...i can see that these were people I befriended, in integrity, but i slipped when I simply disappeared. Now they may be hurt, and what does that say about whether they can trust me?
I'm not sure if I'm making sense-here I am, just turned 70 - I could just be addle-pated.#
Monday, October 31, 2011
Lunch Ready
What I made
That I ate
Today's the day
South of Tucson
Looks good,
What I eat,
And it is good.
That I ate
Today's the day
South of Tucson
Looks good,
What I eat,
And it is good.
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Jobs' Cancer
October 25' 2011
I saw on TV last night (Sixty Minutes) that Steve jobs thought he could cure the cancer with his vegan diet.
I admire his determination to avoid drugs and surgery, for that is my inclination also, but there's some things he missed the boat on, as is plainly clear. Otherwise he'd still be with us.
My take is that cancer, like body-odor,is not caused mainly by what a person consumes. And therefore, there's not much chance to stop it or alleviate either condition solely by what materials a person consumes, vegan or no.
I feel that a nutritious diet will help ANY situation (some conditions more than others), but some conditions have a way of needing something mindful also. I think firstly a person (the victim or the patient) must admit his/her need for help.
If a person simply thinks their way of nutrition is going to win the battle, they don't realize yet that it IS a battle. And that's their first mistake. This Steve Jobs-battle was a fight for LIFE, and that's often, as we know, how cancer rolls.
To everyone who has been diagnosed with cancer, as I was, in '06' (of this century):
My first reaction was to tell no one. I wanted it to be my secret. I felt my FEAR Would increase exponentially, if others knew. I also felt - and here's that "magical thinking" - that if no one knew, I could actually stop and destroy my cancer by myself.
Lone Ranger, that's me. Turns out it's a common reaction. And there ya go, headed for the grave alone.
Luckily, I wound up talking briefly to a counsellor, after a month or two, and she gave me some judicious tips. She said "Use buzzwords" and she said to use them LOUDLY. The buzzwords were CANCER, HELP, DRIVERS. Next thing I knew people were lined up at my church, scheduling my trips to get the radiation and the chemo. Instead of keeping secrets, this counsellor helped me help others to save my life.
It's a shame to lose him; I'm sure he is still haunting Apple environs, he was a man obsessed with life, it would seem, and I think he's still fighting with his wife about all this, but my opinion is:
He would rather be a dead hero than a live one. And in that I think he accomplished his druthers.#
I saw on TV last night (Sixty Minutes) that Steve jobs thought he could cure the cancer with his vegan diet.
I admire his determination to avoid drugs and surgery, for that is my inclination also, but there's some things he missed the boat on, as is plainly clear. Otherwise he'd still be with us.
My take is that cancer, like body-odor,is not caused mainly by what a person consumes. And therefore, there's not much chance to stop it or alleviate either condition solely by what materials a person consumes, vegan or no.
I feel that a nutritious diet will help ANY situation (some conditions more than others), but some conditions have a way of needing something mindful also. I think firstly a person (the victim or the patient) must admit his/her need for help.
If a person simply thinks their way of nutrition is going to win the battle, they don't realize yet that it IS a battle. And that's their first mistake. This Steve Jobs-battle was a fight for LIFE, and that's often, as we know, how cancer rolls.
To everyone who has been diagnosed with cancer, as I was, in '06' (of this century):
My first reaction was to tell no one. I wanted it to be my secret. I felt my FEAR Would increase exponentially, if others knew. I also felt - and here's that "magical thinking" - that if no one knew, I could actually stop and destroy my cancer by myself.
Lone Ranger, that's me. Turns out it's a common reaction. And there ya go, headed for the grave alone.
Luckily, I wound up talking briefly to a counsellor, after a month or two, and she gave me some judicious tips. She said "Use buzzwords" and she said to use them LOUDLY. The buzzwords were CANCER, HELP, DRIVERS. Next thing I knew people were lined up at my church, scheduling my trips to get the radiation and the chemo. Instead of keeping secrets, this counsellor helped me help others to save my life.
It's a shame to lose him; I'm sure he is still haunting Apple environs, he was a man obsessed with life, it would seem, and I think he's still fighting with his wife about all this, but my opinion is:
He would rather be a dead hero than a live one. And in that I think he accomplished his druthers.#
Jobs' Cancer
October 25' 2011
I saw on TV last night (Sixty Minutes) that Steve Jobs thought he could cure the cancer with his vegan diet.
I admire his determination to avoid drugs and surgery, for that is my inclination also, but there's some things he missed the boat on, as is plainly clear. Otherwise he'd still be with us.
My take is that cancer, like body-odor,is not caused mainly by what a person consumes. And therefore, there's not much chance to stop it or alleviate either condition solely by what materials a person consumes, vegan or no.
I feel that a nutritious diet will help ANY situation (some conditions more than others), but some conditions have a way of needing something mindful also. I think firstly a person (the victim or the patient) must admit his/her need for help.
If a person simply thinks their way of nutrition is going to win the battle, they don't realize yet that it IS a battle. And that's their first mistake. This Steve Jobs-battle was a fight for LIFE, and that's often, as we know, how cancer rolls.
To everyone who has been diagnosed with cancer, as I was, in '06' (of this century):
My first reaction was to tell no one. I wanted it to be my secret. I felt my FEAR Would increase exponentially, if others knew. I also felt - and here's that "magical thinking" - that if no one knew, I could actually stop and destroy my cancer by myself.
Lone Ranger, that's me. Turns out it's a common reaction. And there ya go, headed for the grave alone.
Luckily, I wound up talking briefly to a counsellor, after a month or two, and she gave me some judicious tips. She said "Use buzzwords" and she said to use them LOUDLY. The buzzwords were CANCER, HELP, DRIVERS. Next thing I knew people were lined up at my church, scheduling my trips to get the radiation and the chemo. Instead of keeping secrets, this counsellor helped me help others to save my life.
It's a shame to lose him; I'm sure he is still haunting Apple environs, he was a man obsessed with life, it would seem, and I think he's still fighting with his wife about all this, but my opinion is:
He would rather be a dead hero than a live one. And in that I think he accomplished his druthers.#
I saw on TV last night (Sixty Minutes) that Steve Jobs thought he could cure the cancer with his vegan diet.
I admire his determination to avoid drugs and surgery, for that is my inclination also, but there's some things he missed the boat on, as is plainly clear. Otherwise he'd still be with us.
My take is that cancer, like body-odor,is not caused mainly by what a person consumes. And therefore, there's not much chance to stop it or alleviate either condition solely by what materials a person consumes, vegan or no.
I feel that a nutritious diet will help ANY situation (some conditions more than others), but some conditions have a way of needing something mindful also. I think firstly a person (the victim or the patient) must admit his/her need for help.
If a person simply thinks their way of nutrition is going to win the battle, they don't realize yet that it IS a battle. And that's their first mistake. This Steve Jobs-battle was a fight for LIFE, and that's often, as we know, how cancer rolls.
To everyone who has been diagnosed with cancer, as I was, in '06' (of this century):
My first reaction was to tell no one. I wanted it to be my secret. I felt my FEAR Would increase exponentially, if others knew. I also felt - and here's that "magical thinking" - that if no one knew, I could actually stop and destroy my cancer by myself.
Lone Ranger, that's me. Turns out it's a common reaction. And there ya go, headed for the grave alone.
Luckily, I wound up talking briefly to a counsellor, after a month or two, and she gave me some judicious tips. She said "Use buzzwords" and she said to use them LOUDLY. The buzzwords were CANCER, HELP, DRIVERS. Next thing I knew people were lined up at my church, scheduling my trips to get the radiation and the chemo. Instead of keeping secrets, this counsellor helped me help others to save my life.
It's a shame to lose him; I'm sure he is still haunting Apple environs, he was a man obsessed with life, it would seem, and I think he's still fighting with his wife about all this, but my opinion is:
He would rather be a dead hero than a live one. And in that I think he accomplished his druthers.#
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